Hi, I’m Victoria (she/her).
Licensed Social Worker (LSW) | Therapist Old Town Fort Collins, Colorado
Esther Perel, says, “The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.” While I am a lifelong student of new therapeutic modalities and love integrating fresh, evidence-based tools into my practice, I believe the most vital part of therapy is the relationship we build together. In fact, research consistently shows that the connection between therapist and client is the single most important factor in meaningful change.
We typically only see each other for one hour a week, and I recognize that the most significant growth—the real "work" of living—happens in the other 167 hours of your week. But within our hour together, a small world emerges. As we build trust, your strengths, your patterns, and the challenges you face in the outside world will naturally show up in the room. This lived, real-time connection is the heartbeat of our time together; it’s the safe space where we can explore and experiment with new ways of being before you take them back out into your life.
My Philosophy: The Relationship is the Foundation
While our sessions are rooted in the present, I am deeply influenced by a psychodynamic perspective. To me, therapy is about more than just problem-solving; it’s about "helping clients dream their undreamt dreams."
Often, the "shoulds" we carry from our families, our culture, or our past experiences act like a ceiling, capping what we believe is possible for our lives. My goal is to help you look beyond the surface to find the parts of yourself that have been tucked away, silenced, or forgotten. When we bring these "undreamt" parts into the light together, we create space for a future that feels more expansive, imaginative, and uniquely yours.
Dreaming Your Undreamt Dreams
While we use language to explore your story, I also believe that true liberation requires us to drop down into the body. Our nervous systems often carry the "shoulds" and the shame long after our minds have decided to let them go.
I incorporate somatic awareness because your body acts as a compass; it is often the first thing to tell you when you are in alignment with your values and when you aren't. By learning to tune into your physical signals—the quiet pulses, the tensions, and the expansions—we move from simply "thinking about" your life to actually feeling your way through it. This attunement is how we reclaim the body as a place of safety, wisdom, and, ultimately, pleasure.
Attunement as a Compass
Identity & Belonging
Growing up in a large, conservative family and now identifying as queer, I understand the complex, often messy work of navigating identity and family of origin. My own journey—rooted in my family heritage in Poland and shaped by my time living abroad—has taught me that belonging is rarely a straight line.
I am deeply committed to providing a neuro-affirming and LGBTQ+ inclusive space. In our sessions, every part of you is welcome:
The Intellectual: Your thoughts, your patterns, and your deep questions.
The Somatic: Your physical sensations, your nervous system, and your body's wisdom.
The Storied: Your history, your culture, and the "shoulds" you are ready to set down.
Whether you are exploring your identity for the first time or untangling long-standing family dynamics, or developmental trauma (CPTSD), this is a space where you don’t have to leave any piece of yourself at the door.
I believe that sex, intimacy, and pleasure are at the heart of our liberation. While therapy often focuses on what is "wrong," I believe that accessing pleasure—through art, music, creativity, food, touch, laughter, friendships, and sex—is how we know we are on the right path.
Pleasure is not a luxury or a reward for working hard; it is your birthright. Accessing it is a way of living in alignment with your values and finding a sense of purpose. This doesn’t mean that we don't suffer—suffering is a part of the human experience—but pleasure provides the buoyancy and the "yes" that makes the journey meaningful. It is the evidence that you are coming home to yourself.
Pleasure as a Birthright
As a Relational Therapist and active neighbor, I believe in the power of showing up—not just in the therapy room, but in the civic life of the place I call home.
The Power of Story: My career began with a degree in Journalism, captivated by how experiences shape us. I use that same curiosity today to help you edit old "scripts" and write a story that feels authentically yours.
A Call to Service: I served as a Peace Corps Volunteer in Liberia for three years, providing inclusive sexual health education.
Specialized Education: I spent four years as a Sexuality Educator, helping people of all ages unlearn shame and find their voice in their relationships.
Today, you’ll find me around Old Town Fort Collins, attending the odd City Council meeting, or advocating for our community’s collective well-being. I am dedicated to building deep roots here and supporting the neighbors who make this city what it is.